The first year, which end of the 10 apples, nine were taken away, they receive one. In this regard, apple anyway, so cut off its own channel, refused to grow up. The following year, the end of its five apples, four were taken away, they receive one. \"Ha ha, I was given last year by 10%, 20% this year! Doubled.\" Psychological balance of the apple tree.
However, it can do: continue to grow. For example, the second year, which end of the 100 fruit, 90 were taken away, they receive 10.
It may well be that it was taken away 99, they receive one. However, It does not matter, it can continue to grow and fruit year end 1000 ... ...
In fact, how much fruit is not the most important. Most importantly, the apple trees grow! Such as apple trees grow into giant trees, when those who have hindered the growth of the power it will be weak to be negligible. Really, do not care too much fruit, growth is most important.
【Comments】 psychological Did you cut off its own channels a group of workers?
The beginning of the work, you talented, high-spirited, believing that \"天生我才to be useful.\" However, the reality soon struck several闷棍you, perhaps, you do for a major contribution to attach importance to no one; Perhaps the only benefit they have not been orally importance; perhaps ... ... In short, you feel like the apple tree , bear the fruit of their own to enjoy only a very small part of a far cry from the expectations of you.
So, you angry, upset you, you complain a lot ... ... the end, you have decided to no longer strive to make our efforts to match their income. After the past few years, you are a self-examination and found that you now have is not just the work of the passion and talent.
\"Old and mature.\" We are accustomed to such a self. But in essence, you have to stop the growth.
This story everywhere around us.
The reason for committing such errors, because we forget that life is a journey as a whole, we feel that they have been growing, now is the time for fruit. We care too much time in the pros, and have forgotten the growth is the most important.
Fortunately, this is not a Jin Yong novel of self-breaking channels. We stand ready to give up to do so, to continue to grow.
Remember: If you are a working group, met with management knowledge management or error management brutal boss or corporate culture, then, to remind ourselves about, do not be indignant and disgruntled and cut off its own channel. No matter what, have to do an apple tree will never grow up, because you are never more than a month of growth in how much money important.
一）成长的寓言：做一棵永远成长的苹果树 一棵苹果树，终于结果了。
第一年，它结了10个苹果，9个被拿走，自己得到1个。对此，苹果树愤愤不平，于是自断经脉，拒绝成长。第二年，它结了5个苹果，4个被拿走，自己得到1个。“哈哈，去年我得到了10％，今年得到20％！翻了一番。”这棵苹果树心理平衡了。
但是，它还可以这样：继续成长。譬如，第二年，它结了100个果子，被拿走90个，自己得到10个。
很可能，它被拿走99个，自己得到1个。但没关系，它还可以继续成长，第三年结1000个果子……
其实，得到多少果子不是最重要的。最重要的是，苹果树在成长！等苹果树长成参天大树的时候，那些曾阻碍它成长的力量都会微弱到可以忽略。真的，不要太在乎果子，成长是最重要的。
【心理点评】你是不是一个已自断经脉的打工族？
刚开始工作的时候，你才华横溢，意气风发，相信“天生我才必有用”。但现实很快敲了你几个闷棍，或许，你为单位做了大贡献没人重视；或许，只得到口头重视但却得不到实惠；或许……总之，你觉得就像那棵苹果树，结出的果子自己只享受到了很小一部分，与你的期望相差甚远。
于是，你愤怒、你懊恼、你牢骚满腹……最终，你决定不再那么努力，让自己的所做去匹配自己的所得。几年过去后，你一反省，发现现在的你，已经没有刚工作时的激情和才华了。
“老了，成熟了。”我们习惯这样自嘲。但实质是，你已停止成长了。
这样的故事，在我们身边比比皆是。
之所以犯这种错误，是因为我们忘记生命是一个历程，是一个整体，我们觉得自己已经成长过了，现在是到该结果子的时候了。我们太过于在乎一时的得失，而忘记了成长才是最重要的。
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好在，这不是金庸小说里的自断经脉。我们随时可以放弃这样做，继续走向成长之路。
切记：如果你是一个打工族，遇到了不懂管理、野蛮管理或错误管理的上司或企业文化，那么，提醒自己一下，千万不要因为激愤和满腹牢骚而自断经脉。不论遇到什么事情，都要做一棵永远成长的苹果树，因为你的成长永远比每个月拿多少钱重要。
(B) the motives of fable: the children for whom the play
A group of children in front of an old , loud sounds. Over the past few days, the elderly unbearable.
So he gave up 25 cents for each child, said to them: \"You become so busy here, I feel a lot younger, which would like to thank some money.\"
Children were very happy the next day still come, as always . The elderly and then out to 15 cents for each child. He explained that he had no income, only to some less. 15 cents can also let the children are still happily away.
The third day, the elderly only 5 cents for each child.
Children\'s anger, \"only 5 cents a day, we know how tough!\" They swore to the elderly, they will no longer be played for him!
【Comments】 psychological whom you \"play\"?
This tale is a parable of the apple tree deeper answer to the question: Why did Apple cut off its own channel, because it is not for themselves and \"play.\"
People\'s motives are two: the internal motivation and external motivation. If in accordance with its internal motivation to action, we are the masters of their own. If we are driven by external motivation, we will be influenced by external factors, as a slave.
In this fable, the elderly is very simple calculations, he will be the children\'s internal motivation \"for their own pleasure and play\" into the external motivation \"to get cents and play\", and he controlled the external factors cents, so also manipulate the behavior of children. Fables of the elderly, is like your boss, boss? And cents, like it is your wages, bonuses and other incentives for a variety of external?
If the external evaluation as the reference coordinates, our emotions can easily fluctuate. Because we have not control external factors, it is very easy to deviate from our internal expectations, so we are not satisfied, let us complain a lot. Dissatisfaction and complain negative emotion, such as painful for us, in order to reduce the pain, we had no choice but to reduce the internal expectations, the most common way is to reduce the level of effort.
The reason why a person would be the formation of an external evaluation system, the most important reason is that like to control his parents. Parents too prefer to use verbal rewards and punishments, such as material rewards and punishments to control their children, not to care about the motives of their own children. Over time, the children would forget their original motivation, what are the external evaluation of care. School, he has forgotten that the original motivation to learn --- the joy of curiosity and learning; work, he has forgotten that the original motive of the work --- the joy of growth, the rating supervisor and the ups and downs of income has become of his work the greatest source of happiness and suffering.
Remember: regular external evaluation system is a genetic family, but you can break it, from now on cultivating their own internal evaluation system, so study and work into a \"play for their own sake.\"
（二）动机的寓言：孩子在为谁而玩
一群孩子在一位老人家门前嬉闹，叫声连天。几天过去，老人难以忍受。
于是，他出来给了每个孩子25美分，对他们说：“你们让这儿变得很热闹，我觉得自己年轻了不少，这点钱表示谢意。”
孩子们很高兴，第二天仍然来了，一如既往地嬉闹。老人再出来，给了每个孩子15美分。他解释说，自己没有收入，只能少给一些。15美分也还可以吧，孩子仍然兴高采烈地走了。
第三天，老人只给了每个孩子5美分。
孩子们勃然大怒，“一天才5美分，知不知道我们多辛苦！”他们向老人发誓，他们再也不会为他玩了！
【心理点评】你在为谁而“玩”？
这个寓言是苹果树寓言的更深一层的答案：苹果树为什么会自断经脉，因为它不是为自己而“玩”。
人的动机分两种：内部动机和外部动机。如果按照内部动机去行动，我们就是自己的主人。如果驱使我们的是外部动机，我们就会被外部因素所左右，成为它的奴隶。
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在这个寓言中，老人的算计很简单，他将孩子们的内部动机“为自己快乐而玩”变成了外部动机“为得到美分而玩”，而他操纵着美分这个外部因素，所以也操纵了孩子们的行为。寓言中的老人，像不像是你的老板、上司？而美分，像不像是你的工资、奖金等各种各样的外部奖励？
如将外部评价当作参考坐标，我们的情绪就很容易出现波动。因为，外部因素我们控制不了，它很容易偏离我们的内部期望，让我们不满，让我们牢骚满腹。不满和牢骚等负性情绪让我们痛苦，为了减少痛苦，我们就只好降低内部期望，最常见的方法就是减少工作的努力程度。
一个人之所以会形成外部评价体系，最主要的原因是父母喜欢控制他。父母太喜欢使用口头奖惩、物质奖惩等控制孩子，而不去理会孩子自己的动机。久而久之，孩子就忘记了自己的原初动机，做什么都很在乎外部的评价。上学时，他忘记了学习的原初动机———好奇心和学习的快乐；工作后，他又忘记了工作的原初动机———成长的快乐，上司的评价和收入的起伏成了他工作的最大快乐和痛苦的源头。
切记：外部评价系统经常是一种家族遗传，但你完全可以打破它，从现在开始培育自己的内部评价体系，让学习和工作变成“为自己而玩”。