The power of examples is endless, and this should not be too many objections. But how to set a good example? How to make an example to become the driving force a child? This is a more difficult to do things. It is a dazzling world, choose a good example of a difficult task; the child\'s mind is in the development stages, temperament and changeable, \"Ms Wang\'s son, a moment like Altman, a moment like the Transformers, hobbies, fast-changing,\" just to reflect their mental growing. Now want to become an example for their children and even a few life-long learning goals will not be possible; calling such, models may also learn overdone, such as \"groupies\" catch up with crazy level. In fact, the model is just a child forge a benchmark, it needs to select and replace. Of course, the most difficult thing is how to make an example to become a child forward.
Select an example I have two ideas. First, select an example to elect people who are familiar with the child, the more specific the more the person familiar with the more direct influence on children, and the more bear fruit. In my hometown there is a family, brothers, all five admitted to the Peking University Tsinghua University, we call them where home is \"five children later in life.\" Their parents are farmers, too busy no time to educate their children can be children were showing great promise. Later it was discovered that a secret, my brother is his brother as a model. No high above example, if the model into the unattainable position, the child is neither easy to learn, but also may lose interest in strangers. Marx and Engels is great, but you need a teenage child to learn their life-long struggle for the communist cause, they may feel confused at a loss. Therefore, the first example of a child the best of parents, brothers and sisters, teachers, classmates, relatives, neighbors and so on. Second, is to choose an example to be gradually increased, there is layering. Choose a model, \"single-mindedness\" undesirable. The world is changing, times are changing, your child also changing. If your child\'s hero is always the same, I am afraid not keep up with the times.
So, how to make an example of the motivation behind it move forward into a child? I have daughters and students in education, when used three options: create an atmosphere, into emotion, and timely encouragement.
Let me talk about creating an atmosphere. Parents and children through the exchange of a certain set an example after example to give the child a feeling atmosphere. For example a child prefer and intend to learn from Zhang Haidi, parents can be at home, especially children\'s study posted Zhang Haidi portraits introduce her deeds to buy books and newspapers, feature films, as well as books and so on. The purpose of creating an atmosphere in the child he had to learn a model, there is a contact, familiar with the close process.
Model in order to become the driving force a child to make an example of the spirit must be internalized into the child\'s feelings. Emotional strength is tremendous. It should make the child the emotional model, mainly in the child model is full of respect can be felt psychologically accept him. This requires us to communicate more with their children, open the door key to the child mind. Mr. Tao Xingzhi, said: \"Education is the soulmate of activities, with the exception came from the heart to issue in order to reach the depths of the mind.\" Parental role model is a sincere respect for them, and imperceptibly affect children, the children will gradually accept and truly an example for the guide to action.
Example of learning process, children need to encourage the timely elders, it is the children carry on the spiritual power. To encourage must be timely, an example of a child in learning to do something, and parents should immediately recognize. If the commitment to give material encouragement, be sure to keep its promise.
In short, the power of examples is endless, and sometimes he was preaching words than many far more useful, especially in this example, when your side!
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榜样的力量是无穷的，这应该没有太多的异议。但怎样树立好榜样？如何让榜样变成孩子前进的动力？这是一个比较难做好的事情。现在是一个眼花缭乱的世界，选择好榜样是件困难的事；孩子的心智正处于发育时期，性情多变，“王女士的儿子一会儿喜欢奥特曼，一会儿喜欢变形金刚，爱好瞬息万变”正好反映他们的心智在成长。现在还想让某个甚至某几个榜样成为孩子终生学习的目标并不可能；弄不好，榜样还可能学过头，比如“追星族”追到疯狂的程度。其实，榜样只是孩子前进路上的一个标杆，它需要选择和更换。当然，最困难的还是如何让榜样变成孩子前进的动力。
选择榜样我有两个想法。一是选榜样要选孩子熟悉的人，越具体越熟悉的人对孩子的影响越直接，也越见效。在我的老家有一户人家，兄弟五个全部考上了北大清华，我们那儿称他们家是“五子登科”。他们的父母是农民，忙得没时间教育孩子，可孩子都很有出息。后来人们发现了一个秘密，弟弟是以自己的哥哥为榜样的。榜样无需高高在上，如果把榜样放到高不可攀的位置，孩子既不容易学，也可能因陌生而失去兴趣。马克思恩格斯很伟大，但你要一个几岁的孩子学习他们为共产主义事业奋斗终生，他们可能感到困惑迷惘。所以孩子最初的榜样最好是父母、兄弟姐妹、老师、同学、亲戚、邻居等。二是选择榜样要逐渐上升，有层次感。选择榜样“从一而终”不可取。世界在变，时代在变，你的孩子也在变。如果你孩子心目中的英雄总是不变的话，恐怕跟不上时代的步伐。
那么，如何让榜样变成孩子前进的动力呢？我曾经在教育女儿和学生的时候用过三个办法：营造氛围、化为情感、及时鼓励。
先说营造氛围。父母和子女通过交流探讨树立了某个榜样以后，要让孩子有一个感受榜样的氛围。比如孩子喜欢并打算学习张海迪，家长就可以在家里特别是孩子的书房张贴张海迪的画像，买一些介绍她事迹的书报、专题片，还有著作等。营造氛围的目的在于让孩子对他所要学习的榜样，有一个接触、熟悉、亲近的过程。
榜样要想成为孩子前进的动力就必须使榜样的精神内化为孩子的情感。情感的力量是巨大的。而要让孩子对榜样产生情感，主要是让孩子对榜样充满敬意，感到可以从心理上接受他。这需要我们多与孩子沟通，打开孩子心门的钥匙。陶行知先生说：“教育是心心相印的活动，唯独从心里发出来的，才能达到心的深处。”父母对榜样是真心实意的敬重，并潜移默化地影响孩子，孩子们就会慢慢接受并真正以榜样为行动指南。
在学习榜样的过程中，孩子需要长辈的及时鼓励，这是孩子们坚持下去的精神动力。鼓励一定要及时，孩子在学习榜样中把某件事做好了，家长应马上表扬。如果承诺给予物质鼓励，则一定要言而有信。
总之，榜样的力量是无穷的，有时候他比许多言语的说教管用得多，特别是这个榜样就在身边时！